A Complete Who, What, When and How to Tipping Your Wedding Vendors

Wedding planning comes with many financial decisions, and tipping wedding vendors is one of the most confusing parts for couples. It often comes up late in the process, right when budgets are already tight and emotions are high.

As wedding planners we see this all the time. Couples want to do the right thing. They want to thank their vendors appropriately. But they are unsure who should be tipped, how much is customary, what is already included in contracts, and when tips should actually be handed out.

This is exactly why in this blog we go over the most frequently asked questions about wedding vendor tips as well as share our Wedding Vendor Tipping Guide, a simple, clear resource to help couples feel confident and prepared.

Are You Supposed to Tip Wedding Vendors?

Tipping wedding vendors is not legally required in the United States, but it is customary in many cases and generally seen as a way to thank vendors who provide exceptional service and care.

For destination weddings, tipping expectations can vary by country and culture. In some parts of Mexico, Europe, and Latin America, gratuity may already be built into contracts or handled differently than in the U.S. This is just one example of why it is so helpful to have a wedding planner who understands local norms and has experience reviewing contracts.

When couples understand expectations ahead of time whether planning locally or internationally, gratuity becomes a thoughtful gesture rather than a source of stress.

Who Do You Tip at a Wedding?

At most weddings, tips are typically given to professionals who provide hands-on service on the wedding day. This often includes but is not limited to:

• Wedding Planner

• Hairstylist & Makeup Artist

• Delivery & Set up

• Officiant

• Musicians 

• Photographer and Videographer

• Catering & Bar & Staff

• Venue Staff

• DJ & Musicians

• Transportation

Because each vendor plays a different role, and has a different number of members on their team, tipping is less about a single rule and more about understanding the type of service being provided.

How Much Should You Tip Wedding Vendors?

This is where things become more nuanced.

Some vendors are tipped using percentages, others with flat amounts, and some based on the number of assistants involved. The appropriate amount often depends on:

• The type of service

• Whether gratuity is already included

• The size and scope of the wedding

• The quality of service provided

Because these details vary widely, most couples benefit from having vendor-specific guidance rather than relying on general internet advice.

Our free Wedding Vendor Tipping Guide breaks down customary ranges by vendor so you can plan confidently without guessing.

Is Gratuity Included in Wedding Contracts?

Sometimes, yes, but not always.

This is why reading contracts carefully and asking clarifying questions is so important. Couples are often surprised to learn that what they assumed was a tip may not function that way at all.

When Do You Give Wedding Vendor Tips?

Timing depends on the vendor.

Some tips are given on the wedding day, others at the end of services, and some after the wedding once final deliverables are received. Trying to determine this last-minute can create unnecessary pressure.

Many couples choose to prepare gratuities in advance and assign a trusted person to distribute them discreetly so nothing is forgotten.

The free tipping guide outlines when and how tips are typically distributed for each type of vendor.

How Much Extra Money Should You Budget for Wedding Tips?

As a general guideline, many couples set aside a small portion of their overall wedding budget for tips and service-related extras. Planning for this early allows you to handle gratuities calmly and intentionally rather than reactively.As wedding planners with over a decade of experience we have helped hundreds of couples construct the right budget for their wedding, if you would like to know how we can do this for you learn more HERE.

Why This Is Easier With a Wedding Planner

One of the most valuable roles a wedding planner plays is helping couples navigate details like tipping with clarity and confidence.

From reviewing contracts to preparing envelopes and assigning responsibilities, planners help ensure gratuities are handled professionally and discreetly so couples can stay present and enjoy their day!

Want the Full Breakdown? Download the Free Wedding Vendor Tipping Guide

If you want clear, organized guidance without stress, we created a free Wedding Vendor Tipping Guide to help couples plan ahead.

Inside the guide, you’ll find:

• Vendor-by-vendor tipping etiquette

• Customary ranges and expectations

• Timing and distribution guidance

• Planning tips to avoid last-minute confusion

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